Koaching
Koaching your overachiever to follow YOUR own success meter
Your superpower is limitless overachiever.
As a second generation Asian American woman you can move mountains with it. You juggled violin or piano lessons while getting straight A’s. You continued on to college, maybe even to a prestigious university, while running a few different student clubs and finished on top.
Or maybe it’s more like you have a shiny, prestigious career and impressive job title because you got straight A’s in college, maybe even from a prestigious university, while running a few different student clubs and finishing on top.
You have a PhD in overachieving.
Your kryptonite: someone else controls your success and good enough meters.
Reset your success meter to you.
Koaching that gets you to accept you on your own terms.
Your very own success meter.
What happens when you measure your achievements according to your definition of good enough?
You are an amazingly talented and smart second generation Asian American woman. You have a whole lot of impressive under your belt, on a dedicated shelf, or framed on a wall somewhere in your home. You’ve dutifully fulfilled the expectations of your family and culture according to their terms.
But what are your terms?
Being seen for who you are is non-negotiable.
Speaking of terms, being seen for who you are automatically comes with this gig and is non-negotiable. Be ready to be acknowledged and to build your own self-acknowledgment muscles.
Your talent, smarts, and uniqueness are way too important to go unseen, unacknowledged, and unrecognized.
Saving face is getting a new job description.
The old one was about making your parents proud and making your family look good. But that was about them. Where are you in all of this?
What if saving face meant saving the face of your biggest dreams and creating a fulfilling life doing what you love? Success is much more tasty when you get a say in the terms. Absolutely delicious when you define them.
Shall we get started then?
What is koaching anyway?
There’s always a point where the superhero has to decide how she’s going to use her super power and who she’s going to serve. You’re a pro at using your superpower for the benefit of your family’s expectations.
Koaching is the process of learning and transformation that happens when you use your superpower for the good of you and your fulfillment, instead of just using it to fulfill your parents’ expectations.
When this happens, the nemesis of your super capabilities, the pressure to succeed, loses its bite.
Koaching is:
- A professional relationship built on safety and trust.
- ALL ABOUT YOU. But in a good way, not the twisted, self-sacrificing, guilt ridden way that comes with being Asian American.
- Judgment free.
- A safe space for you to be acknowledged and process issues.
- Where you define your vision, dreams, and future accomplishments.
- Where you discover the answers and determine the next action steps.
How does koaching work?
- We create the koaching relationship together. Beginning with an initial 2-hour long session, we create the foundation of our koaching relationship. This gives you the opportunity to let me know how I can best support you.
- Regularly scheduled coaching calls follow where you decide the agenda.
For your convenience, the entire process is done by phone or Skype.
Will this diminish my overachiever superpowers? I don’t want to bring any shame to my family.
Understood. Our work together won’t ruin your good standing with your family or your community. You’ve worked hard to get where you are. Believe me, I feel you on that one.
Everything you tell me is confidential. In fact, I have a confidentiality agreement that you and I both sign before we get started.
Is koaching therapy or counseling?
When people try to get a good grasp of what koaching is, the first thing they think of is therapy or counseling. Koaching is neither.
Here’s why: in koaching, you’re not broken and don’t need any fixing. You are whole and capable just as you are. We don’t delve into the past like you would in therapy or counseling. We only work with the present and what you want to create for yourself in the future.
Unlike therapy, I don’t give you answers or give you directives for action or healing that a therapist may. I facilitate the process of you finding the answers.
There isn’t any stigma attached to koaching in the Asian community like there is with therapy or counseling, so you don’t have to worry about bringing any shame to yourself or your family. Not that there’s anything shameful about therapy, because there isn’t.
Ready to make your self-made success meter go off the charts?
- Imagine having someone dedicated to your success in your terms. What would you create for yourself?
- Imagine yourself doing what you love and feeling absolutely fulfilled.
- Imagine setting yourself up for success and being a source of great pride for what you’ve accomplished.
- Imagine yourself being the shiny, accomplished, and praiseworthy person you are and receiving the acknowledgment you deserve.
- Imagine that who you are and what you accomplish are beyond good enough, acceptable, and a reason to celebrate!
A limited number of slots are available and I want to make sure that you have one of them. Pick from one of the koaching packages below:
10 Koaching sessions including the 2-hour foundation setting session
All regularly scheduled sessions are 40 minutes long and must be completed within three months.
7 Koaching sessions including the 2-hour foundation setting session
All regularly scheduled sessions are 40 minutes long and must be completed within three months.